About Me:
I’m a little bit of everything and a walking contradiction: BBW AuDHD homebody. Witchy, stoner, yapper, professional wet blanket, witty. A little astrology, a lot of psychology. Foodie, music lover, sex nerd. I hate the term sapiosexual, but… that.
Kind, but not always nice. A little spicy, a little sweet. A “good girl” masquerading as a brat. Fiercely independent, still learning to accept that I’m as much the princess as I am the dragon.
I’m an open book — ask me anything. Just don’t waste my time if you aren’t willing and able to meet my requirements.
✨This is important: Non-monogamous, polyamorous, relationship anarchist. Partnered and cohabitating, but fully independent and autonomous. I don’t engage in possessive or ownership dynamics in my kinky or vanilla life. I am my own person and I expect my partners to be as well. I don’t answer to my partners and they don’t answer to me. We keep each other informed, consider the impact our choices make, have agreements, and understand and respect each other’s boundaries, but in the end if that respect isn’t present it will result in loss of access, which is not a punishment, but a natural consequence of a lack of respect, trustworthiness, and consideration for anyone. This is just as true for my committed long-term relationships as it is for an occasional hookup, and everything in between. Respect, honesty, integrity, and communication are required, even if it’s “just sex”.✨
What I’m Looking For:
I need an impact FWB— but the “B” stands for bruises, butt smacks, or some other form of satisfying impact play.
After vetting, negotiation, and genuine human connection — with trust, safety, and mutual understanding of expectations. I’m not looking for a one-time thing or expectations of a long-term committed relationship. I’m borderline aromantic so most of my relationships look like FWBs, but they’re not casual, uncommitted, or without attachment and feelings. I hate dating and the pretense of it so for me, I tend to discuss what kind of dynamic or time commitment someone is interested in and then just kind of fall into it while getting to know each other better. If it works and we can negotiate as we go, then we’re just… together. And if it isn’t working or doesn’t end up being what we both want, then we part ways due to incompatibility the same way we would if we were only going on dates for weeks or months and decided not to take it further. I don’t follow the relationship escalator. Google it if you don’t know what that means.
I want an impact top (or a switch who can top) who gets that:
• I’m not submissive unless I truly trust and feel safe — that safety has to be shown, not told.
• I need control over what’s happening to my body and often give real-time direction during play. I’m not looking for a Dom; I’m a masochist who enjoys the power struggle, not surrendering my autonomy.
• Impact is grounding for me — it’s part of how I regulate and reconnect to my body and emotions.
• I’m still exploring what I need; it may shift as I learn and grow.
I’m out of practice and haven’t had much impact play in the last year or two. I know a lot about kink, but my hands-on experience is catching up. I live with chronic ***, and impact helps relieve it. I’m in therapy, medicated, and view kink/impact as a supplemental tool to help me get out of my head and back into my body.
I probably mesh best with a service top rather than a sadist or Dom — but labels aren’t that important if we can negotiate well and respect boundaries. I communicate clearly (unless I hit subspace or *** high and go nonverbal), and I take consent and safety seriously.
